When it ALL goes bad.

Haver you ever experienced days where you don’t want to get out of bed and you want the day to start over before your feet even touch the floor? It’s those days where you feel like the world is against you and that you have almost no one in your life you can can count on. Or it’s the times where you feel like there is no hope left and you’re clinging to a very fine string at the end of a frazzled rope. These are difficult times.

How many of us experience these feelings and never say anything about it?

We are supposed to have it together. We must project an image that we are continually strong because our readers, our clients, our customers, our audience, or the circle of people around us must never see a weakness or hole in our armor. The reality is that we all have scars and battle wounds. Some of us are in daily fights right now.

I’ll stand up and be honest. Things are going bad for me right now and I am fighting.

The blogging experts say you should write about your bad experiences years after they’ve happened so you don’t show your readers that you have problems — because no one wants to read or buy from a person who doesn’t have it all together. I never believed in being conventional anyways.

I’ve made some bad business decisions and choices that have come back to haunt me. I have blamed others when I only have myself to blame for certain situations. I have focused on the wrong goals instead of the ones that were worthy. My health is suffering from working long hours behind a computer. And there have been times lately where it is a struggle just to survive mentally and financially.  It honestly just sucks and yet I feel good that I can admit that openly.

I also think some of you are also experiencing the same things. Some of you are facing your toughest challenges RIGHT NOW.

This is why I share things that are on my heart in real time. I think one of the biggest tragedies is that we are taught not to expose our weaknesses or doubts. We hold on to burdens we cannot carry alone and then it really goes ALL bad. I wonder how many people have suffered or died because they believed they didn’t have hope or someone they could talk to. This past weekend I was challenged to be BOLD and it is at this time where I must choose to do so, starting with this post.

It will ALL turn around and there is light at the end of the tunnel.

It seems funny to say, especially when you are hiding in a cave yourself right now, but David experienced some really dark days even though he was a man after God’s own heart. David screwed up in a big way and yet God also delivered him from his enemies and used David for His purpose and glory. King David’s life is an amazing story.

I don’t know if you are going through anything tough personally or professionally, but you have one person who has prayed for you today. You have someone who you can talk to and who understands. It may be all bad for you right now, but it will get better.


  1. Becky McCray on August 2, 2011 at 10:50 am

    James, you are a good person with lots of smarts. I admire your strength to share your challenges, and I know you’ll make better and better decisions going forward.

  2. James Dalman on August 2, 2011 at 10:55 am

    Thanks Becky! I do hope to make better decisions and it helps to have great people like you who push and challenge me. 😉

  3. Danielle on August 2, 2011 at 11:00 am

    I am so grateful that you had the courage to post this heartfelt and inspiring blog entry. As I travel through struggles of my own, your post reminded me that it’s like walking through a valley – open on both sides with a way in AND a way out – and that it’s never too dark for God to see us and guide us. May He hold you close as you walk through your valley.

  4. James Dalman on August 2, 2011 at 11:14 am


    Thank you for your feedback and for taking the time to comment. You couldn’t be more right about the valley, though sometimes our vision is clouded by the circumstances. I pray that you will make it through soon as well!

  5. AG on August 2, 2011 at 10:15 pm

    Be still, there is a healer…


  6. Matt Marcinek on August 3, 2011 at 9:26 am

    tough times don’t last, tough people do brother!

    Keep your head and you faith high and everything will work out!

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