Reflections on Turning 40

It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to…

Yeah, I actually sang this song yesterday as I fired up my brand new nasal hair remover, popped my One-A-Day pill, and considered hammering down Tequila flavored Geritol shots to make myself feel better.  And while I really wanted to crawl into the closet and lay in the fetal position to lament, I miraculously survived turning the BIG 4-0 without a major melt-down.

I’m not sure why turning the ripe old age of 40 is so difficult.  I guess in a way it makes you think that you have more of a past than a future.  Maybe it’s the thought that we are no longer in the “young studs club” or the realization that gravity will win and our body is going to morph right before of our eyes.  I also think it’s because some of us want to hold on to the feeling of being fully alive, but believe it’s impossible to keep it when we hit the mid-life point.  There are undoubtedly lots of reasons that can bring us to our knees at this unwelcome milestone.

How will I choose to live and still feel fully alive?

Forty isn’t the end of life as I know it, and even though the reality of getting older does sting a bit, I truly hope to experience most of my best days in the future.  Yes, I am asking lots of questions and considering changes but I feel as though this is quite normal.  No, I’m not going to go out and stock up on Just for Men or foolishly treat myself to a 2010 Camaro.  Nor am I considering piercing my ear in childish rebellion like Harrison Ford or botoxing my sagging body parts.  These are just temporary fixes to a hard reality — but I will chose to live differently than I have in the past.

To be honest, I’ve been a jackass on and off for several months because my life was car-jacked by an enormous thug called 40.  It robbed me of the true blessings and joy that surrounds me every day; a wonderful family, great friends, and amazing freedom to work on my entrepreneurial pursuits.  It’s not bad at all but I made it that way.  Today however is different.  I’m letting go of the pity party for myself and looking forward to putting my best in front of me.  There is so much to do and live for!   It really is mind over matter.

SO HELLO TO 40 … lets rock-n-roll and live life to the fullest!

2 Comments

  1. Paul Steinbrueck on September 16, 2010 at 3:58 pm

    Happy birthday, James! I’m right behind you (in 8 months anyway). But hey, I hear 50 is the new 40… or something like that. 🙂

  2. James Dalman on September 16, 2010 at 4:27 pm

    Thanks Paul! I’ll pass the torch to you in 8 months then … and I’ve heard that saying but I still think 40 is 40. 🙂

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