No Magical Headline Here. Just A Moment of Truth.

It’s not to often that I really say what’s on my mind or share personal stuff, but this is one of those posts where I think I want to do exactly that.

This year I am turning 40, and even though my wife in her endless wisdom believes it’s just another number, I have found it quite difficult to deal with so far.  My mind continues to wrap itself around the reality that so much time has already passed and that if I am blessed with another 40 years, I don’t want to screw that up.

There are so many things that I want to do and complete.  Stuff I know I will regret if I just let these ideas or days pass by.  When my dad passed away unexpectedly at the age of 51, one of the last things he said was “it is amazing how to we take a breath of air for granted.”

I don’t want to take anything in life for granted…

My kids are now teenagers and moving closer to flying the nest.  My wife has invested her love and life in me for almost 19 years now.  My mom is getting older.  I have “known” for 10 years that life moves fast and all of a sudden it’s like a hard realization has hit me.  I have taken so many things for granted because I’ve had the wrong focus.  Now I am thinking of my legacy and what I have done that really matters.

It’s time for me to re-prioritize.  It’s time for me to stop procrastinating on things I’ve wanted to accomplish for years.  It’s time to embrace that there is a new season of my life on the horizon and that I must not take anything for granted.  Decisions have been made and there is more to come…

5 Comments

  1. Brett Weaver on March 18, 2010 at 1:31 pm

    Thanks for sharing James. I’m right there with you! I’ll be 40 in December. Married 15yrs, but my daughter is just six. For a long time I’ve been aware of time seemingly passing faster, but even with that awareness I still can’t believe how days, even years, seem to rush by, especially now that I’m working freelance.

    I haven’t done and surely won’t do everything I’d like to in my life, but I’ve been proud of one thing about myself lately. When it comes to making decisions about how to spend my time, I seem to be developing the habit of looking at things in the big picture. I try to prioritize based on the last day of my life. If looking back I would regret not doing something I try my best to do it.

    Last weekend I took an overnight trip with our church’s youth group to a youth conference two hours away. I really dreaded losing the sleep that I knew I would lose, but I decided it was important in the big picture so I did it anyway.

    Another thing that is important is to look forward. Whatever we’ve not done up to this point is gone and worrying about it will only hinder.

    Thanks again for sharing and sorry for the rambling comment. Keep up the good work!
    Brett

  2. James Dalman on March 18, 2010 at 8:48 pm

    Brett,

    You’re welcome and thank you for sharing your thoughts! It’s great that you are looking at the big picture. Sometimes we tend to only want to see the small snapshots.

    The youth group stuff is something I miss! Be assured that it IS worth lost sleep. : )

    Thanks again for sharing.

  3. Bob Randklev on March 19, 2010 at 10:59 am

    James,

    Your first 40 years was for learning, the next 40 years are for living!

    Keep the three cornerstones of life in focus, Happiness, Health and Abundance!

    Combine those with an unbreakable foundation of faith and your life will be one they write books about…. or maybe you will write the book 🙂

    Bob

    • James Dalman on March 20, 2010 at 11:12 am

      Thanks for your insight Bob! I definitely want to make the rest of my days count.

  4. Amy on April 22, 2010 at 10:12 pm

    Thanks for sharing James. I’m right there with you! I’ll be 40 in December. Married 15yrs, but my daughter is just six. For a long time I’ve been aware of time seemingly passing faster, but even with that awareness I still can’t believe how days, even years, seem to rush by, especially now that I’m working freelance.

    I haven’t done and surely won’t do everything I’d like to in my life, but I’ve been proud of one thing about myself lately. When it comes to making decisions about how to spend my time, I seem to be developing the habit of looking at things in the big picture. I try to prioritize based on the last day of my life. If looking back I would regret not doing something I try my best to do it.

    Last weekend I took an overnight trip with our church’s youth group to a youth conference two hours away. I really dreaded losing the sleep that I knew I would lose, but I decided it was important in the big picture so I did it anyway.

    Another thing that is important is to look forward. Whatever we’ve not done up to this point is gone and worrying about it will only hinder.

    Thanks again for sharing and sorry for the rambling comment. Keep up the good work!
    Brett

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